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Many couples have been planning their weddings for a full year.  That’s a long time.  It feels like every conversation comes back to the upcoming nuptials and figuring out the details.  Significant time and money is invested.  So, it’s understandable that we become very attached to the end result.  The thing is, couples who revel in their weddings are the people that are able to let go of things to a point – to go with the flow of whatever may develop.  Those who manage this potentially challenging task of rolling with it and who can choose good helpers can actually have fun at their own wedding.  Sounds good, huh?.  And make no mistake, despite greater equality between the sexes, in most cases, the day is mostly about the Bride.  Therefore, all things being equal, the Bride’s mindset and approach are more relevant than anything else.  Ergo, ‘Happy Bride, Happy Day’.  A calm Bride, which usually means a chilled out Groom, results in a happier day, and better wedding photography.

Now, may not be as easy as it sounds because there are a lot of people involved.  That includes the Bride and Groom, the Family members and the Vendors.  Still, the wedding day is mostly about the Bride.

First to the easy-going Bride.  You’re all good.  That is because you will run into some problems – which will probably not be anything of any significance.  Maybe the flowers aren’t ‘precisely’ what you had in mind.  Maybe there isn’t a place card for one of your guests.  Maybe your dress rubbed against something and there is a little mark.  Maybe one of your always irritating family members is, surprise surprise, being irritating.  Maybe after five sunny days in a row, it’s pouring rain.  And so on…  Luckily, you are the laid-back Bride, so you roll with the punches, more attuned to the bigger picture – oh that’s right, you’re marrying the love of your life!  So, you take it all in stride and revel in your special day.  And the wedding photographer loves you.

For the volatile lady, this could be an extremely challenging day.  Your intention will certainly be to have a lovely experience, but sometimes it doesn’t take a lot for the heart rate to go through the roof.  While the following advice apply to all Brides and Grooms, the emotional Bride can certainly benefit:

- Select a trusted person to handle snags, preferably your Matron of Honor.  She will be your go-to person who will deal with issues as they arise, only letting you know if it’s a key decision.

- Finish all wedding prep at least a few days before the day so you can really enjoy the build-up.

- Visualize in advance.  Anticipating it’s going to be a stressful day, visualize ahead of time to not over-react to things.

- Recognize Escalation & Fear.  The spiral can often begin with an innocuous event.  If you allow one episode to take on a life of its own, it can lead into something else, etc. etc. – all of which ends up playing into the fears you’ve had for months about things going amiss with your Wedding.  Seriously, it’s not worth it.

- That detail you are so worked up about…  Chances are your guests won’t notice or care – unless you make a big deal out of it.  The vast majority of your guests are more interested in being a part of the love that the two of you are commemorating.

- Family Funny Business.  You already know who in your families drove you up the wall (gotta love family).  The silver lining here is that if there is a certain someone who just gets your goat, it’s entirely predictable.  It’s a shame to allow this person to ruin things for you.  Own your own emotions and responses.

- Be open to a change of plans.  Rainy day?  Be receptive to your photographer’s suggestions because they should be doing their utmost to capture good couple shots (arguably the most important pictures).  In short, be flexible.  Occasionally, an plan B actually ends up being more interesting than the set plan.

Hey, what about the Groom?  Suffice to say, he can also make things difficult, but generally speaking, he is usually trying hard to keep his Bride pleased – unless he’s a butthead.  The wedding day is an intensified practice session for marriage.  ‘Happy Bride, Happy Day’ segues perfectly into both ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’ and sets the stage for creative wedding photography.